"Living Rent Free in Your Mind"

Happy Thursday, y'all! 

This is the topic for today's post. We have all been there. That one person that just drives you absolutely insane and you want to let it go, but you can't. 

I know I've had my fair share of these people. Be it a conflict situation, a romantic situation, or just pure irritation, some people just take up residence in your mind for free...and it sucks. 

I have been contemplating this for a while because the conflict/irritation situations have applied to the last month of my life. No joke. There is one person whom I just cannot stand, and they're living perfectly comfortably in my head right now. 

I've noticed when people are struggling with this, these phrases come out in force. 

"It's fine."

"I'm over it." 

"(They) don't bother me anymore." 

"I don't care." 

etc. etc. 

Who are we trying to convince with these phrases? The person we're talking to or ourselves? The more we talk about the situation, the more it says, "I'm really not over this! I'm still struggling to move on, to come to terms with whatever has happened! This person still bugs me!" 

And you know what? That's okay. There is no timeline for when you have to be "over" a situation. It's like a breakup. It takes time to learn to forgive the person/yourself for what's happened.  I've found that when you're truly over a situation, you'll stop saying those phrases and that topic won't come up in conversation anymore. It's just not worth your time or effort. 

Whenever I'm feeling this way, I try to find someone to talk to. Usually it's someone who's not involved in the situation. I know this can be irritating for the both of you, but venting is a healthy way of releasing emotion. Trust me. I used to keep emotions bottled up until I would have a major breakdown. That behavior was completely unhealthy. I still struggle with expressing some emotions sometimes, but having people around me who are willing to listen, no matter how many times I've talked about a situation, helps me move on faster. 

What are ways that you "get over" a situation that's bothering you?

I hope your Thursdays have been delightful!

Au revoir!

Rachel