Making Friends is Hard
Let's talk about making friends.
For me, making friends can prove to be very difficult. As an, almost, adult, I feel like this shouldn't be such a task, but it is. The idea of going into a very socializing heavy situation knowing no-one gives me anxiety.
I'm an introvert, so this is not surprising.
I'm very quiet upon meeting people, but I tend to warm up as I get to know them, again, introverted tendencies! I can be extroverted if need be, but I much prefer to be alone or with groups of people I already know. I do better when I have a friend with me. They don't need to introduce me, but knowing that someone I know and am comfortable with is around me, makes me infinitely more comfortable around the people I don't know.
I used to think I was just painfully shy, and as a small child, I think I was. As I've gotten older and gone through college, I've realized I'm just very introverted, and those tendencies pop up in large social situations.
Throughout college, I've been told that I'm "intimidating to approach", and in my early teenager years, I was told that people thought I was "stuck up". I'm not, I don't think. I just analyze a situation, observe, take everything in before jumping into a conversation. I'm not one of those people who will talk just to talk. I like to have something to contribute to the conversation.
If you're like me, don't worry! Being introverted, quiet, or cautious isn't a bad thing! I think it means that you just know yourself well enough to know what works for you and what doesn't. You know what will stress you out and what will help you relax.
This wasn't meant to turn into a though provoking post, just something I've always noticed about myself. I used to feel bad about it. Maybe I would grow out of it, become more social, more relaxed around people, but I realize now it's not a deficiency or problem that I have.
Of course I have friends, and don't worry, the friend-making process has definitely become easier over the years. You just have no idea how much anxiety I get beforehand...
Happy Labor Day!!
Au revoir et à demain,
Rachel
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I'm an introvert, so this is not surprising.
I'm very quiet upon meeting people, but I tend to warm up as I get to know them, again, introverted tendencies! I can be extroverted if need be, but I much prefer to be alone or with groups of people I already know. I do better when I have a friend with me. They don't need to introduce me, but knowing that someone I know and am comfortable with is around me, makes me infinitely more comfortable around the people I don't know.
I used to think I was just painfully shy, and as a small child, I think I was. As I've gotten older and gone through college, I've realized I'm just very introverted, and those tendencies pop up in large social situations.
Throughout college, I've been told that I'm "intimidating to approach", and in my early teenager years, I was told that people thought I was "stuck up". I'm not, I don't think. I just analyze a situation, observe, take everything in before jumping into a conversation. I'm not one of those people who will talk just to talk. I like to have something to contribute to the conversation.
If you're like me, don't worry! Being introverted, quiet, or cautious isn't a bad thing! I think it means that you just know yourself well enough to know what works for you and what doesn't. You know what will stress you out and what will help you relax.
This wasn't meant to turn into a though provoking post, just something I've always noticed about myself. I used to feel bad about it. Maybe I would grow out of it, become more social, more relaxed around people, but I realize now it's not a deficiency or problem that I have.
Of course I have friends, and don't worry, the friend-making process has definitely become easier over the years. You just have no idea how much anxiety I get beforehand...
Happy Labor Day!!
Au revoir et à demain,
Rachel
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